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Why We Have Girlfriends, Smallhouses: Zimbabwe Married Men Speak Candidly

Why We Have Girlfriends, Smallhouses: Zimbabwe Married Men Speak Candidly
Why We Have Girlfriends, Smallhouses: Zimbabwe Married Men Speak Candidly
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Zimbabwe’s married men have opened up on why they engage in extramarital affairs with girlfriends and small houses.
 
The issue of small houses and girlfriends plagues many marriages in the country and is the bane for many married womenZimbabwe social media personality and cyber-aunt Tete Fadzie decided to explore the issue in detail. She asked married men who engage in extramarital affairs to share why they do so.
 
Tete Fadzie wrote,
 
My question for today goes to the married men, who have girlfriends or small houses, why do you choose to have extramarital affairs? You can send thorough your reasons anonymously via the link below.
 
Many men responded to the question. Many seemed eager to justify their behaviour. Some used science to explain why they have girlfriends and small houses while others used the Bible.  Others blamed their spouses for failing to satisfy their sides of the marital contracts.
 
Below are some of the responses on why Zimbabwe married men have girlfriends and small houses,

The sooner we all agree that monogamy isn’t natural then we’ll be better for it. We keep lying to ourselves that we’re capable of spending an eternity but it’s simply unnatural. Even studies have proven it. 

 

 

We do tt for sex pleasure no love whatsoever. The problem with married woman after getting married they relax. Man actually wants sex everyday to be honest. They are so hungry lions. I don’t blame our forefathers to take two wives or 5 it was more nicer those days bcz isu tiri muchipanera nevakadzi ava unoita mwedzi achiti 1 am tired.

 

 

For sex. Marriage women are stingy when it comes to sex. Also for things like bj because married women don’t like it too.

 

 

We dont love these ladies who we have extra marital affairs with. Its just for sex. Some of us married virgins and they are not willing to try some crazy things in bed apa isu tinenge tambobvako takuziva kuti kune ma monkey styles nema praying mantis . So we miss the thrill and end up going back into the field. Izvo zviya zvekuitirana mumota tozvida but wifey anenge achitoti ko tikasungwa vanhu vanozotii. Also some of these ladies actually listen to us when we pour our hearts out other kumba where the wife will start judging you akutogaya kuti my husband is weak.

Why We Have Girlfriends, Smallhouses: Zimbabwe Married Men Speak Candidly
Why We Have Girlfriends, Smallhouses: Zimbabwe Married Men Speak Candidly

 

There is one main reason, women tend to lose interest in sex as they grow old it’s just natural and on the other hand man still want it even when they are old. So that is why men tend to have affairs outside marriage. Back they a wife would agree wth his husband to find and marry a younger woman.

 

Why We Have Girlfriends, Smallhouses: Zimbabwe Married Men Speak Candidly

The problem is we adopted a culture we do not understand, but nature always wins, we try by all means to go against nature but there about 5 billion women on the planet against about 2 billion men, it’s not natural for men to have one partner. We say it’s Christian but no, in the Bible people read verses that support there agenda. That’s why some of these marriages are standing because of small houses. Men are not built to love one woman. Adultery for man is having an affair with a married woman only, if she is single that’s not Adultery .

 

We are both in our forties but I want more sex than my wife. No matter how much I try to be romantic , she would only prefer it once per week!

Why We Have Girlfriends, Smallhouses: Zimbabwe Married Men Speak Candidly

 

Personally in my experience it wasn’t kuti my wife was bad at anything but ndaingoda extra munhu wekurelaxer naye when i am not home. Glad its now ancient history .

 

 

Kubvisa stress…married men rarely leave their wives unless vadyiswa havo or they are really done with the marriage

 

When a wife gives birth,she becomes overwhelmed by responsibilities as a mother,wife and sometimes her own carrier,so we go out for pleasure and with our bodies and cash only…we leave our hearts and souls with the wives.

 

Why We Have Girlfriends, Smallhouses: Zimbabwe Married Men Speak Candidly

 

My wife and I are not sexually compatible. I love sex 24/7. She doesn’t want to even hear about it. I have starved myself of sex in an effort to maintain a semblance of a marriage – for the sake of the children. Outside marriage I have had extramarital affairs and some of the sex has been out of this world.

 

 

1.Murume hanyimwe bonde anokuhurira simple. 2.Murume akasaremekedzwa anotsvaga kwaanoremekedzwa. 3. Mukadzi akanyanya kuita pamromo nekupopota manhingi murume anoenda kwakanyarara. 4.Kozoti kungodawo zvinhu so, kangori kashavi aka. 5. Kuita mota or mari waroora exposes murume kuzvinhu zvaanga asati ambo experiencer, vazhinji ndopavanonyurira apa. Ladies throw themselves to succesful men, if usiri disciplined unozviruza. Vakadzi vajaira zvekungonyengwa so vanogona kuzvibata, but varume vanonyengwa nevakadzi ndevanetunhu tunhu, so pfuma iyoyo ikazouya munhu atoroora has mal, baba vanochinja kuita kakomana except for a few disciplined men.

Why We Have Girlfriends, Smallhouses: Zimbabwe Married Men Speak Candidly
Why We Have Girlfriends, Smallhouses: Zimbabwe Married Men Speak Candidly

 

There is one main reason, women tend to lose interest in sex as they grow old it’s just natural and on the other hand man still want it even when they are old. So that is why men tend to have affairs outside marriage. Back they a wife would agree wth his husband to find and marry a younger woman.

 

I will be honest, I’m in my late 30s – got married 15 years ago and had only been in an affair once. In 2019 I met the love of my life. This woman is everything I did not know I needed. What started off as a “let’s see how it goes” is now a lifelong relationship. I did it for love!

Why We Have Girlfriends, Smallhouses: Zimbabwe Married Men Speak Candidly

 

Every man in public will swear they have zero love for ma small house avo, but i actually fell in love with mine, started off as fun in the beginning but now i love them both, what i do at my house i do for my “second wife”, i have not and will most probably never be able to o.fficialise because my wife would breathe fire, but that does not take away my love for either of them. We go on dates and talk and plan life , I visit her almost daily. So sometimes you end up cheating because you are actually in love.

Our wives cause us to do that, once married these women relax sex wakuita kunamata munhu yet you married so that munongopanana like what Paul said in Corinthians. Manje isu varume we have a higher drive so you end up looking outside for fullfilment, panenge pasina love but that physical satisfaction yaunenge wawana, ukateedzera zvekumba gore rinotopera ka uchingonyimwa kana kungopihwa zvegrudge hazvinakidze

Why We Have Girlfriends, Smallhouses: Zimbabwe Married Men Speak Candidly
Why We Have Girlfriends, Smallhouses: Zimbabwe Married Men Speak Candidly

Most men escape to small houses coz of one thing which is sex. If you look at it men tend to form small houses late into the marriage after 1 or 2 kids. This is due to sex boredom. As time goes on sex becomes boring with one partner all the time. This is made worse when the wife is too christian to be freaky in bed. Sex need to be spiced up. Women shud learn to stylish wen it comes to sex. This habit of lying on their back like roasted chicken and let the guy do all the work will not help their case. Women don’t be too shy or too christian or too old to be freaky in bed. Fongorawo wakadzikisa msana, rara nedumbu, simudzawo makumbo ayo, mudonhedzewo uyende pamsoro, tambisawo chiwuno icho usawome mutezo kunge chitunha. Ride your man like nobody’s business. Talk dirty, initiate foreplay, make him eat the cookie and also suck that stick like a lolipop. Look for bedroom tools buy one or 2 in accordance with your fetish. Go for dates like you did muchiri yung etc. Always spice up your sex life even after 1 or more kids, stay in the game, most importantly go to the gym and stay in shape.

Why We Have Girlfriends, Smallhouses: Zimbabwe Married Men Speak Candidly
Why We Have Girlfriends, Smallhouses: Zimbabwe Married Men Speak Candidly

Our wives cause us to do that, once married these women relax sex wakuita kunamata munhu yet you married so that munongopanana like what Paul said in Corinthians. Manje isu varume we have a higher drive so you end up looking outside for fullfilment, panenge pasina love but that physical satisfaction yaunenge wawana, ukateedzera zvekumba gore rinotopera ka uchingonyimwa kana kungopihwa zvegrudge hazvinakidze

inin i dont support affairs outside marriage but what i know is that men are polygamous in nature from the way they were created even tikatarisa mubible chaimo vamunoti anababa vezvemwya the likes of Abraham, David Gideon, Israel just to name a few but vakawanda vainge vaine vakadzi >1 but the problem nowdaes handiziye kutya maresponsibilities here vanhu vakuita zvemaaffairs. Kuroora vakadzi vakawanda zviripamutemo hakuna kutomboshata but zvekuzocheater izvi ndochivi manje i have many verses the bible which supports polygamy but polygamy yacho iyoyo haizi yevarume vese coz kune vamwe vakatosikirwa futi kugara varivega zvekuroora hazvina kutomboiswa mavari the likes of ana paul koita vakasikirwa mukadzi mumwechete nevakasikirwa more than 1 wife..cz you cant have 2 wives yet you are struggling kumuchengeta so its not for everyone.

Why We Have Girlfriends, Smallhouses: Zimbabwe Married Men Speak Candidly

For me it’s not that my wife doesn’t give me sex but it’s about some qualities that my wife doesn’t possess.Side chics attracted me because they know u married but they want in,also the fiestyness and the open mindedness is awesome.I love my wife and I married her because she is wife material and also submissive.

I see ladies are saying what men thing of is sex only do you know men woke up with a boner everyday in the morning for no apparent reason. in my opinion monogamy does not work and it was a relegious and colonial lie installed in us. polygamy should be practised and would eliminate alot of problems in today’s marriages and failed ones.

Mukadzi akaziva kuti atsiga mumba 1.Haachagezi 2.Respect inopera 3.Hutsanana mumba hunoita huchipera. zvino nhai tete fadzi ndinga garawo sei muimba yakadarogn

It’s the thrill of just having sex with someone else. There are times when you feel you want to have it with someone that’s not your wife. Another factor is loneliness, have you ever felt lonely even when you have a wife at home.

Honestly speaking, ku small house hakuna nguva yekunetsana. Kungosvika wakatodziisirwa mvura yekugeza, uchibva ku bath unosvika uchipfeka ma pata pata akadziisiwa kare. Wobva waberekwa kuenda ku bedroom. Manje kwa mai mfana unotanga kupopoterwa uchiri ku door kuti wapindirei ne bhutsu uri kuisa tsvina mumba mandichangobva kutsvaira izvezvi. Ku small house ukafamba pa floor ichangobva mop, softly unongonzi “Watch your step dadyy, the floor is still wet.” Kumba ungonzwa yava ” Hoyo, hoyo Jesu ofamba pamsoro pemvura”. In short most of ma small house edu venhu vari pama corrections e marriage saka vanotibatisisa

Why We Have Girlfriends, Smallhouses: Zimbabwe Married Men Speak Candidly

Our beloved wife’s ignore some of the important things that men really need. Image coming home munhu achikuudza kuti akaneta. And if you don’t ask for sex zvinotongovharana. Umwe anongoda missionary sex zvimwe haade. Men I believe we are not that hard to control. We go where you get attention, satisfaction, pleasure.

African men are polygamous by nature. We were colonised into monogamy. It takes a lot for someone to be monogamous but some choose to be faithful to their spouse.

Hey Tete I have a side chick to protect my marriage, once you marry her sex becomes based on their mood so to avoid unnecessary arguments I just go and cum elsewhere and I love my wife

Why We Have Girlfriends, Smallhouses: Zimbabwe Married Men Speak Candidly

Men are polygamist by nature. Tha why Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines. It’s a fact.

Its called a hunting instinct Fadzi. Zvinongonakidza kunzwa kuda munhu ari different from wawajaira. It doesn’t necessarily mean kuti hauchada wife wako, but wangonzwa kudawo ari different. I will give you an example, say perhaps you go for hunting wobata nhoro yako and on your way back home you meet a limping hare. Handiti unorova futi . But it doesn’t necessarily mean kuti hauchada nhoro yako.

Because women relax after the cows go home. Wife used to gym and take care of herself before marriage. She’s now gained so much weight and is so lazy. The girls out there are so aggressive especially kana pachiwoneka kuti pane mari and maiguru is slacking. Zim married women need take care of their bodies. If you can’t afford gym, just do some exercise, put in effort and we won’t stray.

What say you?


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